When I was little
she was a demigoddess
the breast I fed from
the teacher
the healer of skinned knees
with kisses and songs
When she broke
I didn’t understand
what breaking meant
but I learned
that it meant
pieces scatter
and take people with them
that it meant
lines are drawn
sides taken
and if you don’t choose
your choice is taken
Sometimes
even if you choose
you don’t get
what you wanted
I was the only one there
so she projected
every bit of everything
upon me
all her fears
became mine
by default
I did not own them
but forced into
the indentured servitude
of blood and proximity
I carried them
heavy and foreign
around my neck
her millstone
she was too weak
to bear
He told me that
she needed me
and she did
she needed someone
to hold all the things
she didn’t have room for
as she flew apart
she needed someone
to stand guard at the door
while she disintegrated
curled into a ball
salting the earth
I struggled to grow in
she needed someone
who would never leave her
and ultimately
I was the one
who never did
with the baggage
of years between us
I reached over it
and held her hand
wiped her face
changed the channel
told her stories
as if
she were
my child
instead
of the other way
The morning they called
I knew when the phone rang
because I could feel it
the layers of her
overlaying me
slid away
as gently as her hands
had been
when things were
innocent and good
and no one took sides
or looked into someone else’s eyes
and said
You never loved me
(c) RCGA 2015
Mattie Belle 1931-2010
A little note… she was named for her grandmother, who was known by her nickname, but the name on her birth certificate was Amanda, a name that means “worthy of being loved”. She always wished that had been her name; perhaps she never understood that she was not only worthy, but always loved.